Anti-perkahwinan

Another PMS-filled rant brought on by family issues. My family is screwed up, even more so after my mom passed away, because apparently, dah tak payah jaga hati sesiapa.

How many weddings have you been to this year? Last year? Is everybody (except the people getting married) tired of this trend?

If you got married because you're certain you love each other, am positive that the person you're standing with under that frilly, much-too-colourful umbrella the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, am financially secure and relatively sure you can shoulder the responsibility of a whole other person and mature enough to take on the intricacies and complication that comes with marrying into a whole other set of family called in-laws – then by all means, congratulations! I am happy for you.

But so many people just get married because it's expected. Or because in that moment they happen to feel like it. Or family pressure. Or terpengaruh dengan video clip Colbie Caillat. Or kalau dah memang tak tahan nak buat camane.

And then 6 months down the road bercerai la ape la and you realize how you don't know the other person at all. And masa tu akan menyusahkan so many people sebab it will involve families. Marriage is tough, people. Aku pun tak tau ape yang sume orang dok excited about marriage.

Actually the key issue here is that, sila berkahwin dengan orang yang awak dah kenal hati budinya. And please, get married for the right reasons. I get pissed off beyond reason when someone gives me religion as an excuse to get married (in Islam, getting married is an obligation). Macamlah aku kene pegi kursus kahwin to know that. Yes, if marriage is an obligation adakah perlu get married to n'importe qui?

Sama aje kalo cakap nak kahwin sebab agama suro tapi awak tu bole membimbing ke tak?

Sorry, I might come across as bitter and pessimistic and generally unsupportive of the institution of marriage. Which is untrue. I'm such a romantic. As long as you're with someone you want to grow old with, you can work through anything. If you're willing to compromise, marriage is a great thing. Trouble is sometimes you don't really know people. Sometimes the problem is really, memang susah kot nak tau hati orang. But sometimes, sape suro kahwin suka hati dengan orang sembarangan.

Ok. Dah habis ranting. Don't take this as Syikin dok meroyan tak kasi orang kahwin. Bak kata Lina hari ini, "Kawenlaa Syikin. Best la kahwin J".

And this post is not directed to Ayu, Lina or David or any of my friends getting married in the near future. Btw, nanti Amie kawin aku jadi pengapit – aren't i always damn supportive org nak kawin?